Alright, back to this activity again. It's been a while since my last post and so many things and shits happened lately. That's life, what so funny about life is so many things could happen in a blink of an eye.
Currently, I just had a conversation with a really wise friend of mine. Always nice to discuss many things with him. Well, after so many shits happened these couple days ago, finally me and him back to our old favorite topic, THE OLDER YOU ARE THE MORE EXPECTATIONS AND PRESSURES YOU'LL GET from people around you especially your family.
I told him my problem, my thoughts and my cranky complains about what I've been through lately and I got so speechless when he said that statement. He said it wisely "makin kita dewasa, makin besar jg harapan dan tuntutan yg lo dapet. Sabar dan semangat aja. Suatu hari nanti jg dateng momentnya lo berhasil"
Sounds cliche but that's true! Coba kita flashback to the moment when we were a little kid, kayanya mau apa aja gampang. Tinggal ngerengek, ngambek sambil nangis di lantai mgkn? (Not me hehe), masang muka melas, org tua kita pasti luluh dan berusaha ngasih yg kita mau (ga tau krn emang ga tega apa udah males+malu aja diresein sm anaknya).
Tumbuh lebih tua sedikit, kita masuk ke jenjang remaja. Makin banyak lah aturan2 dan tuntutan yg kita dapet. Harus rajin sekolah, dapet nilai bagus. Mulailah agak susah kl minta sesuatu (ga smua ngalamin sih, ada juga anak2 yg dptin smuanya dg gampang), mau beli PS/Xbox? Belajar dulu, ga boleh ada nilai merah, ga boleh bolos dan sejuta syarat lainnya.
Masuk ke fase seorang anak dianggap dewasa. Harapan dan tuntutan orang tua dan lingkungan sekitar makin besar dan kadang tanpa mereka sadari tindakan mrk bukan memotivasi tp justru buat kita depresi. Well, I'm sure everyone wants to be successful, every parents want their kid to be someone. I'm a normal person and I want that too..
Sometimes, communication between someone with his/her parents could be so frustrating. Semangat mencapai sesuatu demi membanggakan orang tua berubah jd semangat pembuktian diri kepada org tua. Beda tipis tp kl diliat lebih dalam ada unsur dendam. Is that good? Well, maybe not that good. I think that every parents should learn how to communicate wisely with their children. Why? If they know how to communicate with them, they respect the children's feelings, it'll help the children to grow up better and it'll shape their personalities and characters.
It's okay to expect something from your kid but try to understand the situation. Find a way to communicate it wisely so we can get a mutual understanding. Because no matter how hard it is, there will always be a way out. The best one.
And no matter how annoying our kids or our parents are, we still love them unconditionally. It's a natural thing.
Currently, I just had a conversation with a really wise friend of mine. Always nice to discuss many things with him. Well, after so many shits happened these couple days ago, finally me and him back to our old favorite topic, THE OLDER YOU ARE THE MORE EXPECTATIONS AND PRESSURES YOU'LL GET from people around you especially your family.
I told him my problem, my thoughts and my cranky complains about what I've been through lately and I got so speechless when he said that statement. He said it wisely "makin kita dewasa, makin besar jg harapan dan tuntutan yg lo dapet. Sabar dan semangat aja. Suatu hari nanti jg dateng momentnya lo berhasil"
Sounds cliche but that's true! Coba kita flashback to the moment when we were a little kid, kayanya mau apa aja gampang. Tinggal ngerengek, ngambek sambil nangis di lantai mgkn? (Not me hehe), masang muka melas, org tua kita pasti luluh dan berusaha ngasih yg kita mau (ga tau krn emang ga tega apa udah males+malu aja diresein sm anaknya).
Tumbuh lebih tua sedikit, kita masuk ke jenjang remaja. Makin banyak lah aturan2 dan tuntutan yg kita dapet. Harus rajin sekolah, dapet nilai bagus. Mulailah agak susah kl minta sesuatu (ga smua ngalamin sih, ada juga anak2 yg dptin smuanya dg gampang), mau beli PS/Xbox? Belajar dulu, ga boleh ada nilai merah, ga boleh bolos dan sejuta syarat lainnya.
Masuk ke fase seorang anak dianggap dewasa. Harapan dan tuntutan orang tua dan lingkungan sekitar makin besar dan kadang tanpa mereka sadari tindakan mrk bukan memotivasi tp justru buat kita depresi. Well, I'm sure everyone wants to be successful, every parents want their kid to be someone. I'm a normal person and I want that too..
Sometimes, communication between someone with his/her parents could be so frustrating. Semangat mencapai sesuatu demi membanggakan orang tua berubah jd semangat pembuktian diri kepada org tua. Beda tipis tp kl diliat lebih dalam ada unsur dendam. Is that good? Well, maybe not that good. I think that every parents should learn how to communicate wisely with their children. Why? If they know how to communicate with them, they respect the children's feelings, it'll help the children to grow up better and it'll shape their personalities and characters.
It's okay to expect something from your kid but try to understand the situation. Find a way to communicate it wisely so we can get a mutual understanding. Because no matter how hard it is, there will always be a way out. The best one.
And no matter how annoying our kids or our parents are, we still love them unconditionally. It's a natural thing.
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