Yes, I believe that! As a human, we all deal and cope with mistakes every single day. And how to fix it? Say sorry. Yeah, that's the easiest way..
But do you really believe that forgiving someone/something is that easy and simple? I mean, for example, I lied to someone then I say "I'm sorry I lied to you" Is that enough to erase the disappointment? I don't think so.. Maybe, he/she'll forgive me but I don't think that it'd be that easy for he/she to trust me again. And I don't think that it'd be easy for us to have a "normal" relationship as well as before. Because however, what I've done must have hurt his/her feeling.
I remember that day when someone say a brilliant statement to his friend, who had really hurt his feeling, like this "if saying sorry could erase someone's mistake and the pain he/she has caused that easy, I could and I would do any mistakes I want (don't care about the impacts of my action) and then I'll say sorry the next day and everything will be fine. My life would be so nice!"
Good point! Like I said on my previous blogs, "kata maaf sekarang terkesan murah dan gampangan".
Tiap orang pasti pernah melakukan kesalahan, bahkan sedang dan akan melakukan kesalahan. Kata maaf memang jd sebuah "magic word" untuk menebus kesalahan tersebut. Tapi bukan itu pointnya. Ada yg lebih penting dr kata maaf itu sendiri.
PEMBUKTIAN!!! Bukti kl kita sadar betul akan kesalahan kita, bukti kl kita sadar betul akan dampak dr perbuatan kita, bukti kl kita tau dan mau memperbaikinya, bukti kl kita sudah dalam proses berubah dan bukti kl kita tidak akan mengulangi kesalahan kita lg.
Once you lost someone's trust, it'll be so hard for you to get it back. Ketika kita melukai perasaan seseorang, sekali msh bs dimaklumi, dua kali masih bs diatasi, lebih dr itu akan susah ditoleransi.
I'm not a saint, I make some mistakes too.. Tulisan ini ngga bermaksud menggurui tapi justru jd sarana introspeksi diri saya sendiri.
And to you, I appreciate your apology, and it's accepted. But like we talked that day "if you ask me can I forgive you, I will and I have to forgive you. But how's it gonna be between you and me? It's not gonna be that easy"
Because what matter is not the "saying sorry moment" but what you're gonna do to fix it not just for a day, a month, a year, but forever.. Not only for me, for you but for everybody's sake.
But do you really believe that forgiving someone/something is that easy and simple? I mean, for example, I lied to someone then I say "I'm sorry I lied to you" Is that enough to erase the disappointment? I don't think so.. Maybe, he/she'll forgive me but I don't think that it'd be that easy for he/she to trust me again. And I don't think that it'd be easy for us to have a "normal" relationship as well as before. Because however, what I've done must have hurt his/her feeling.
I remember that day when someone say a brilliant statement to his friend, who had really hurt his feeling, like this "if saying sorry could erase someone's mistake and the pain he/she has caused that easy, I could and I would do any mistakes I want (don't care about the impacts of my action) and then I'll say sorry the next day and everything will be fine. My life would be so nice!"
Good point! Like I said on my previous blogs, "kata maaf sekarang terkesan murah dan gampangan".
Tiap orang pasti pernah melakukan kesalahan, bahkan sedang dan akan melakukan kesalahan. Kata maaf memang jd sebuah "magic word" untuk menebus kesalahan tersebut. Tapi bukan itu pointnya. Ada yg lebih penting dr kata maaf itu sendiri.
PEMBUKTIAN!!! Bukti kl kita sadar betul akan kesalahan kita, bukti kl kita sadar betul akan dampak dr perbuatan kita, bukti kl kita tau dan mau memperbaikinya, bukti kl kita sudah dalam proses berubah dan bukti kl kita tidak akan mengulangi kesalahan kita lg.
Once you lost someone's trust, it'll be so hard for you to get it back. Ketika kita melukai perasaan seseorang, sekali msh bs dimaklumi, dua kali masih bs diatasi, lebih dr itu akan susah ditoleransi.
I'm not a saint, I make some mistakes too.. Tulisan ini ngga bermaksud menggurui tapi justru jd sarana introspeksi diri saya sendiri.
And to you, I appreciate your apology, and it's accepted. But like we talked that day "if you ask me can I forgive you, I will and I have to forgive you. But how's it gonna be between you and me? It's not gonna be that easy"
Because what matter is not the "saying sorry moment" but what you're gonna do to fix it not just for a day, a month, a year, but forever.. Not only for me, for you but for everybody's sake.
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